Ignite the Passion in Your Relationship: Rekindling the Spark.

  Being in a long-term committed relationship has its perks. But sometimes, when you’re with someone for a long time, you become comfortable together. You slip into a routine, your cute lingerie gets pushed to the back of the drawer, and you get used to each other.

There’s nothing wrong with routine and comfort—it’s only natural.

However, comfort can also mean monotonous…

  You may miss that feeling you used to get when you first met and the excitement of your partner’s touch.

  In some ways, this is just part of allowing your relationship to mature. But believe it or not, it’s possible to take the good from the process of getting comfortable without allowing things to get boring. It just requires effort and awareness.

So, if you feel like you and your partner have lost the spark, don’t panic!

  It doesn’t mean you’re doomed to a lifetime of pecks on the cheek and a once-a-month fumble with the lights off. It just means that it’s time to get creative and rediscover why you fell in love in the first place. From there, it’s all about consistently putting in the effort to keep that spark alive.

  Without further ado, here are 9 ways to turn up the heat and put the sizzle back into your relationship.

1. Work on Yourself

  One of the best things you can do for yourself, your partner, and your relationship is to work on yourself. No one is perfect, so don’t be afraid to admit your flaws and want to be better. We all have different things to work on and can benefit from self-improvement.

  At the end of the day, the better off you are and the happier you are with yourself, the happier you can be in a relationship with somebody else.

2. Surprise Each Other and Be Spontaneous

  Not everybody likes surprises, so we’re not necessarily discussing throwing each other parties. But part of keeping things interesting in a long-term relationship is being somewhat spontaneous. That means different things for different people—it may be taking your partner out for a surprise dinner, welcoming them home wearing a garter belt, and not much else.

  Not only does this keep things exciting, but it shows your partner that you care and are thinking of them.

3. Show Appreciation for Each Other

  When you’re spending a lot of time with your partner, you’re likely to get used to being around each other all the time. Consequently, you tend to get used to all the things you do for each other on a daily basis. And I’m talking about the boring things.

  One way to try and keep the spark alive is to ensure that you’re outwardly appreciative of all the things you do for each other. If you show appreciation for each other in general, you’ll remember how lucky you are to share your life with one another.

4. Be Affectionate

  Intimacy comes in different forms, and different people require varying amounts of intimacy and affection. You can show affection by touching, holding hands, cuddling, or even just using pet names.

  Whatever it is that works for you, being affectionate is a warm reminder that your partner wants you, and cares about you.

5. Communicate Openly and Honestly

  It’s no secret that the key to all good relationships is communication. But not just talking—it’s got to be open, honest, and constructive communication.

  You may know each other well, but it’s not fair to expect your partner to read your mind. Tell them what you’re thinking and ask that they do the same. They may not have noticed the spark has fizzled a bit or that you want to get the flames of passion burning a bit brighter.

  Express your wants, needs, and desires, and discuss how you can both put fuel on the fire.

6. Bin The Boring

  This can apply to many areas of your relationship, but if you want to put that spark back, you must ditch the granny panties and frumpy flannel PJs and turn up the heat. Yes, they may be comfy, but they are not doing you any favors.

  Invest in sheer lingerie, sexy sleepwear, and cute panties that will leave your partner panting. They’ll soon notice the transformation and those old feelings of desire will come flooding back.

7. Spend Quality Time Together

  Spending time together is one thing, but make sure you’re still spending quality time together. This is the difference between simply crossing paths as you go about your day because you wake up, run errands, and go to sleep together.

  You need to make time for each other and intentionally plan a romantic night with no distractions or a getaway that’s just the two of you.

8. Rediscover Shared Interests or Hobbies

  There’s a reason you’re together—probably many reasons—so try to get back into any hobbies or interests you share.

  Doing something you love together is a great way to reignite passion and rekindle your love for each other. It reminds you both of why you are together and helps create new memories.

9. Play Games (the good ones!)

  When you’ve been together for a while, you tend to get used to each other sexually. This can be great in many ways—you know what your partner likes and vice versa. But it shouldn’t mean that you stop having fun and trying new things!

  Everybody has different desires and fantasies. But it’s not always easy to act on them, even if you’ve been together for years (or especially!).

  A great way to get that fire burning in your loins and not your cheeks is to play sex games. You and your partner can explore new and exciting things that will leave you begging for more or bursting out laughing. Either way, it’ll be a bonding experience.

Keep The Fires Burning

  Once you’ve got the flames burning again, don’t let them die out. If you keep working on ways to fuel the fire, your relationship can stay smoking hot. Put on that sexy lingerie, play the games that get you hot under the collar, plan quality time together, and tell each other what you want. It’ll be worth it.